What to Do in a Sexless Marriage

I've been married for a year and although sex is still regular, it's becoming a bit routine and I can see how, on current trends, it'll dwindle to once a fortnight then once a month etc etc.

I've given this a lot of thought, and as far as I can see it's generally the female in the partnership who 'goes off' sex. There are obviously exceptions (like the girl I know who had sex once on her wedding night and, not for the want of trying, no sex for the next two years) but I'd say that its definitley a gender thing.

Maybe when a women has 'got her man' her hormones start telling her that there's no need to spend valuable time and energy on sex when it's there whenever and wherever she wants it. Whereas most of us guys are up for it 24/7, married or not! It's possibly something about 'spreading your genes'.

There are a number of strategies open to all the guys in this situation:-

1. Discuss it with your wife - Hmmm, this sounds like a good idea on the face of it ,but there's a possibility this will put the pressure on her and even make her a bit paranoid about the whole thing, thus making the situation even worse!

2. Rely on the old five finger shuffle! - If you can satisfy those urges by pleasuring yourself ,then maybe that's the answer (just remember to 'clear history' on your computer! :-))

3. Have an affair by joining a cheating wives club, which I did think of doing - but not very ethical and if you value your marriage, not a good idea at all.

4. Go to relationship counselling - Again, is this going to make things worse?

5. Try to make her more interested in you - Why not hit the gym, get some new clothes, a splash of aftershave, etc. I also think doing a few things, social or not, as an individual (as opposed to a couple) might reintroduce a bit of mystery to the relationship. When was the last time you did a bit of harmless flirting with a member of the opposite sex? It can do wonders for self confidence and what's wrong with a little bit of jealousy on her part.

Just my thoughts!

Do you have any answers to stop my blisters.

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